Please Don’t Clean for Your Postpartum Doula

Don't clean up after child for postpartum doula

Dear clients, I don’t ask you for many favors. But I’ve noticed a way that some of you are making more work for yourself after a baby, and that’s the opposite of what I want.

So pretty please, don’t feel that you need to clean your home just because I’m coming over for a postpartum shift.

This does not apply to everyone. I know that for some, getting back into a routine after baby can be the thing that settles your mind, and puts you at ease. If you’re one of the people who find the KonMari method soothing, you go ahead and clean. I support you. And I will probably notice, and congratulate you on your efforts.

But others of you are (you know who you are), are worried about what I’ll think if I see your home in its natural state. You’re who I’m talking to.

You, dear client, should take a deep breath, and put down the broom or step away from the dishwasher. Leave the tiny baby socks where they are. Go put your feet up!

I know you might have had a lot of people visiting since your baby got here. And you want to let everyone know that you’re doing well, you’ve got it under control, and you’re a good parent.

I want you to stop cleaning for two reasons:

  1. You have support, and you do not have to do this alone. Your postpartum doula is not another guest that you’re taking care of. I’m a helper- so use me!

  2. You have nothing to hide from me. Remember- I believe that being a good doula is about non-judgemental support. That extends to things you need help with around the house. You don’t need to impress me. You already have by creating a WHOLE HUMAN BEING!

 

The time after birth, when your postpartum doula is in the home, is a time in your life when you get to lean on others. I consider putting things in order a part of caring for you and your growing family. It’s my job to help you, and I really like my job.

So clients, I appreciate the sentiment. But please don’t clean, or apologize for anything being out of place. Mom guilt, (or dad guilt) has no place here. You have nothing to prove.

You’re entitled to some clutter. You’ve earned it.

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