Dear clients, I don’t ask you for many favors. But I’ve noticed a way that some of you are making more work for yourself after a baby, and that’s the opposite of what I want.
This does not apply to everyone. I know that for some, getting back into a routine after baby can be the thing that settles your mind, and puts you at ease. If you’re one of the people who find the KonMari method soothing, you go ahead and clean. I support you. And I will probably notice, and congratulate you on your efforts.
But others of you are (you know who you are), are worried about what I’ll think if I see your home in its natural state. You’re who I’m talking to.
I know you might have had a lot of people visiting since your baby got here. And you want to let everyone know that you’re doing well, you’ve got it under control, and you’re a good parent.
I want you to stop cleaning for two reasons:
The time after birth, when your postpartum doula is in the home, is a time in your life when you get to lean on others. I consider putting things in order a part of caring for you and your growing family. It’s my job to help you, and I really like my job.
So clients, I appreciate the sentiment. But please don’t clean, or apologize for anything being out of place. Mom guilt, (or dad guilt) has no place here. You have nothing to prove.